I always knew that I would be the "tougher one" when it came to raising our kids. I pretty much figured out that Hubs would be a pushover when he began letting the dog sleep in our bed because (and I quote) "she seems lonely on the floor."
Ky and Ariana both love their Daddy more than I could express through words. Their faces light up when they see him, they both race to the door when he comes home, and Ky especially is Hubs' #1 fan - always asking for him and about him and always wanting "Dada" to do it.
I always tried not to take it personally when Ky would ask for Dada when he woke up, or Dada to give him his lunch, or Dada to change him. I just figured it was because he was with me all day and by the time Dada got home, he was bored with me.
BUT NO. I figured it out. It's because I'm the tough one. It's because when he wakes up randomly in the middle of the night, I explain to him that it's nighttime and he has to go back to sleep and let him CIO a bit, where Dada just brings him in our bed. Or if it's lunchtime and Ky is chanting, "juice box! juice box!" and he has already had one today, I give him water, but DADA gives him juice. I also do all the things he hates like clip his nails. Administer medicines. Use the Nosefrida which Ky thinks is a torture device. I
pick wipe his nose and wash his hands put him in the occasional time out. And when he's "done" with dinner and he's freaking out and shouting "get down!" and the rest of us are still eating? I explain to him that we all eat as a family and he'll have to sit quietly and wait til we're done. Dada takes him out and lets him loose.
Its so frustrating. I love my husband and he's an amazing father, but I sometimes wish he would join me in disciplining instead of just giving in and always being the good guy. I know Ky is still a baby, but how else do you teach toddlers things? And does this explain why Ky asks for him over me? Because he knows I'll say no to his 3rd juice box of the day, or because he knows Dada will take him out of his crib when he should be sleeping? Is he going to hate me forever because I'm the disciplinarian? But doesn't someone have to be??
Sigh. Do you deal with this in your family? Who is the disciplinarian and who is the pushover? Am I being too hard on him since he's only a baby? Oh, and don't even get me STARTED on how much my PARENTS give-in. That's a whole 'nother post on it's own... ha!